Rewrite Your Story!

RE-WRITE YOUR STORY! I haven't written in a while but again, a common theme has arisen among my clients.  I've written about re-framing and concentrating on positives, but this takes it one step further.  The way you tell your "story" or the way you look at and describe your past, can make a big difference in the way you see yourself and your life in the present.  Many things happen to us in life that we would not choose for ourselves.  If we continuously ruminate about these unfortunate events and wear them like a "badge of honor, we can become "victimized" by them. Re-writing your story is a very helpful tool to enable you to move forward; when telling someone about your unwanted past experiences, don't forget to include what you learned from the events and why your life is better for them.  The proverbial "silver lining" is inevitable.  As time goes by, you will realize that everything always works out.  I know this sounds kind of "Pollyanna-ish" but doesn't it? After the dust settles, life goes on and hopefully you will get past it and understand why it had to happen. Of course, therapy/counseling can facilitate this process. I don't mean to sound callous for believe me, I have had my own unwanted past experiences including great loss and heartache.  But I can now see how it all has brought me to where I am today. If I continued to tell my sad story over and over again and lived in the past, I wouldn't have been able to move forward and pursue my life's purpose. This goes for present scenarios as well; the way we interpret events will determine the quality of our lives and maybe steer its path!  If we can be mindful of what's happening and take a moment to take a step back long enough to to put things into perspective, it can be an "easier pill to swallow." By avoiding the victim role, we can retain hope for the future instead of the self fulfilling prophecy for more "bad luck." These happenings that we don't like or want are meant as contrast; by experiencing them, we find out what it is that we do like and want, and send out our "rockets of desire" in an attempt to attract more positive situations.  The more we can maintain that "high flying" feeling of what we want, the easier it will be to manifest our dreams. So please give yourselves permission to dream big and may all of your wishes come true.